Taking Care of Myself

So many of us AA's are codependent on top of our alcohol problems. I have such a tendency to feel responsible for the feelings of others. Guess what! I'm not! Wow, what a great discovery this is. And as a twenty-something, I'm grateful to have discovered this now. As long as my actions and intentions are right, then the responses and reactions I receive are completely the responsibility of the other person.

Boundaries are important in any relationship, but especially the marriage one. It is such a fine line to walk. We should not tempt our spouse with something that will cause them to react poorly; however, if what we say or do is not "wrong" then we cannot worry about what they say or do. I am not responsible for that today. It feels so good to know that!

Thankful for the Program

It is a new season in my life. As some of you know, I've been sober for 5 years. That is quite an accomplishment in this day and age when so many of my peers can only think of drinking and partying- especially the ones without the responsibilities of family and work. It has been quite a struggle lately, but I have made it through. God's grace is absolutely amazing. He has pulled me through the fog and the funk I have been in. What an amazing God we have!!!! He has placed the right people in my life at the right time and the right places. I am also learning that asking for help is not weakness; it is a lesson in humility. I know I can't do it all on my own. I also found out that it's good to cry once in a while. It purges the soul. What a gift - tears are like a shower that washes away the muck and junk surrounding all the good in my life. I'm so glad that my eyes have been opened to this. If I shut others out then it is impossible to get close to anyone in my life - what a concept!